For the single people out there
Posted by Dreamlife on April 20, 2007
This one’s for all of us who are waiting. I hope you take something good from it.
“Reliance”
They tell you to be patient.
They say your time will come:
what is meant to be will be;
And all that lies between now and then
is a trial of Faith,
a lesson in patience,
a Revelation of your ultimate reliance on the One.
You seek that which, you feel, will complete your heart;
complement your mind;
bring lasting comfort to your soul.
You wish for the bond of love and tranquility,
placed between your hearts;
you yearn for the one who will be a garment to you,
and you fulfilling the same blessed purpose for them.
You dream of a future,
a life no longer alone.
A companion to share with you all the extacy and agony you will face within your journey.
Someone who will walk with you,
side by side,
hand in hand,
down the beautiful path that leads back the One to Whom we belong,
the One to Whom is our return.
And though you will face that Day alone,
your bond – and all it manifested itself as – gives you hope
that, together, you were each other’s helping hand.
You enjoined what was good,
and forbade what was evil;
You had a common goal, a beautiful goal;
and the support of each other was your safety net:
you had a home in their arms,
and when they held you,
nothing could harm you -
For you were right where you were destined to be,
wrapped in the love of the one who you held so dear,
and the two of you,
wrapped in the Love of the One Who brought your souls into existence,
then shaped you over time – through pain and joy, preparing you for the pure, everlasting union that was always in existence – though you did not know it until it came to your senses:
manifested itself in front of your eyes.
He alone, you worshipped;
He alone, you asked for help.
And though, at times, you grew frustrated,
wondering when the help would come;
when it would be your turn -
in truth, the Help was always there.
It was just for you to accept -
with your heart and your mind,
beyond the superficial rhetoric -
that everything has its appointed time.
So on that Day,
as you stand before Him,
you do so in the knowledge that your lives,
your souls,
though beginning separated;
were brought together at the appointed time.
And all that came before was not a waste -
on the contrary,
it was a treasure chest:
a collection of thoughts, feelings, experiences;
all part of your preparation.
Yet you did not see it that way,
in your haste to attain that which you so cherished.
But the past has passed,
and all is put into perspective now.
And though we cannot conceive what awaits us in the Hereafter
– for Paradise begins where the imagination ends -
we know who we wish to share it with.
So, look past the immediacy of these moments without them;
and remember what awaits you in your future.
Take lessons from the past.
Be thankful for the present.
Be hopeful for the future.
Seek help in patience and prayer;
ask of Him Who is of infinite bounty.
Tell Him all that you fear,
all that you dream of,
all that you want;
Open up to Him and pour out every ounce of the hurt you feel.
Let it all go.
For when you have done so,
when your troubles have been released,
you will be brought back to the truth and comfort of your ultimate reliance on the One:
your Eternal Companion; closer than you can imagine.
Keep the faith, always.
somethingtobe said
well said
haseena said
wow thats beautiful
Dreamlife said
y thank you
'liya said
That was beautiful!
bb-aisha said
Have you been reading my mind :-p
This was unexplainably beautiful. Subhanallah
Fatima said
This is really lovely and thought-provoking
alia said
as salaam
if we measured our personalities with states of being, right now ill be a very impatient, sorrowful person.
i read your post knowing full well what you mean, understanding that the wait is part of His SWT plan. knowing that there is no point in feeling lonely and wallowing in it coz it wont bring ‘the one’ that much closer to being discovered, but i cant help but feel: when? when will it be me?
for the past year or less ive been drowning in things, time-occupying things that keep me on my toes and out of my mind. this weekend i took some time off of those things and what a huge mistake-the loneliness, the longing and the asking of futile questions all returned and now i sit with the difficulty of returning to my things. my heart yearns as it has never yearned before.
alia said
>>>Someone who will walk with you,
side by side,
hand in hand,
down the beautiful path that leads back the One to Whom we belong,
the One to Whom is our return.
alia said
it yearns for exactly this. on top of the yearning to meet my Lord and Cherisher it yearns to meet Him Most High with this special one.
i dont know if i can wait anymore. but i suppose that is not up to me eh?
i think that once you hit a certain point, in your understanding of the world, things can only be seen through those eyes. despite your feelings, your selfish wanting and your unnecessary ranting, at teh end of teh day you have to just accept, because you know that predestination is at play and you understand just how insignificant you are in the planning of your own beautiful life.
in a weird contradictory way it gives me a sense of comfort, knowing that im not in charge of finding the one. that i can kick back and relax and wait for those experiences to come knocking so i can delve into it-either to be ‘hurt’ and learn or for it to ‘work-out’ . but the hardest part is limbo…waiting waiting and waiting…
alia said
to leave the waiting and get on with life is the key. i need to stop it. stop it stop thinking about it. and waiting for it. i need to keep moving…keep doing my things…keep adding things. things are good. things are fulfilling. the right things lead to a good life. Things are the beginnings of other things. Keep busy I tell myself, but my heart refuses to listen…
oh well, maybe tomorrow will be different. The long-weekend blues has got me. Keep making dua, u right, insha Allah it will be, either in this temporary abode or the next one, it will be…
good post though, got me all worked up..
peace, al
Dreamlife said
the time-occupying things, while being necessary, have acted as a form of avoidance. you see it as a mistake, to have taken time off, but its not – because it was a reminder that these things are still there.
you can’t just drown them out in busy-ness; occupy your time and hope they’ll go away. if they’re real things, they stay until they are resolved.
how it gets resolved, and what part you play in resolving them, thats an unknown that you find out over time.
the waiting is part of your challenge, part of your test. when you’re forced to wait in something so important to you, it teaches you patience which, hopefully, will spread to other areas of life too.
it is a kind of selfishness – not wanting to wait; and i think the younger you are, the harder it is – because your mindset is more towards instant gratification; and i think maturity brings with it the wisdom that all things have their time, and no matter how much you think you need something at a particular time, life is not a supermarket, where you can just get what you want when you want it.
so, you learn patience from this. like you say, predestination is in play – and there’s a lesson to learn: to accept that you aren’t the one who is really in control.
you’re right, that it should give us comfort – knowing we’re not in charge of finding the one. i wouldn’t say you can kick back and relax, though – because we don’t get except that which we strive for. but, for a girl, i think its more towards that side of things – in that you’re usually the one being pursued, since the guy generally makes the 1st move.
you’re right – the key is to leave the waiting and get on with life. don’t put all your focus on this – because then you neglect the other areas, which can bring you a lot of happiness and satisfaction.
the approach, though, of trying to fill your time as an avoidance mechanism, seems faulty – which could be why your heart is refusing to listen.
(sorry if i’m sounding like a psychologist here. just saying what comes to mind…you’re the one that studied psychology, not me
it doesn’t mean you have to stop doing everything and confront your issues and figure it all out – that would be an extreme.
but i’d say that the other extreme – filling your time just to be busy so that u can avoid the issues – thats the wrong approach too.
so, like so much in life, you’ve gotta try and find something in between. a balance that works for you, which feels right to you and isn’t doing injustice to either the stuff you do (time-fillers) or the issues you need to face.
I hope u find that balance
saaleha said
awed.
and hopeful.
alia said
OOH A you going all psy-101 on me!!
lol no i get you, and youre right… avoidance is my best freind!!!
thanks for the kind words…
a small request: next time happy subject plz….:)
lol
slms
Dreamlife said
Hey, i’m pretty good at avoidance as well…just as long as we don’t let it become “denial”, i think we’re reasonably ok. (At least, i hope thats the case
)
I can’t promise what the subject will be. I don’t decide, after all
shabz said
Hey Mr. Zippo
I’m in awe , it took a few years but your words seem to have found their way home
Maliha said
Salamaat,
Beautiful heart song Mashaallah, thanks for sharing.
kimya said
gosh, i cant believe i missed this one in my rushed amblings along the mixed life path and time found for real and virtual readings… your words weave the answers to strangling threads of this web life creates around us! answers that leave in their wake a simple calm.. and understanding.. a reminder to Trust the Divine Will and a reassurance, most of all.. May your path be filled with the fragrance of this calmness of spirit that you so easily disperse..
awed said
Salaams
This seems to be written a while back…the link was on a friend’s post. I usually don’t comment on blogs much..but I have to say that SubhanAllah..this is a really beautiful post! Very moving..you bring together so beautifully in words my (and I’m sure many others) scattered thoughts on this.
Dreamlife said
Walaikum salaam, and jazakAllah. It’s still probably my favourite of all time – it was pure inspiration, and i feel like i didn’t write it – it just came through me.
glad you liked it
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